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Written by Lorraine Roach
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I have discovered a great stress buster for women suffering from the empty nest syndrome. It all makes perfect sense to me now. I just needed my children to come home for a visit or go to their home for a few days.
When I see my family again it does not matter if it has been two weeks or two months I get the same benefits.
My attitude and moods are immediately affected and I get a feeling of energy and youth and I see what wonderful people they are and I feel pride and a joy of accomplishment.
It is a totally personal thing and everyone has their own way of handling the fact that it is time to see your children grow and have lives of their own, however, women that I have spoken to seem to share a commonality in the way we are mentally connected to our off-spring.
Every time we see each other it does get easier to see them go back to their own homes because just like they had separation anxiety from you when they were babies the tables have turned and now the anxiety is coming from us, the mothers.
It is an adjustment for women to have a large part of who they are seemingly taken away one day when you hear the announcement that they are moving out to go to school or to live with friends or go to a job.
Some women find it difficult to admit that their children were a very large part of a life that was supposed to be not always about the kids.
Society had a way of giving women the idea that if we put anything ahead of ourselves then that was not a good thing.
I disagree because I always thought I did not know what I wanted to do for a career and I felt I was not doing it all as society said I should.
Staying home to raise a family was not portrayed as being important up until a few years ago.
I realized that I was doing what I always wanted to and that I actually had a career all along.
I now understand the feeling of unrest and anxiety followed by depression and I know that I will be able to move forward in this new chapter of my life.
The women of today have so many options and can find many outlets for them along with regaining a new understanding about what they want to do in the future.
I found I was not prepared for all the quiet and hours of freedom I used to look at in a negative way.
I have found many personal development programs and information to help me learn how to transition myself and really enjoy my newfound self.
We are never too old to gain insight into ourselves and in so doing we can move away from the anxiety that comes from letting go of the control and responsibility.
We will always be parents under the skin but now we can add a new dimension to that skin.
About the Author:
"For 40 years, 7 months, 4 days and 3.9 hours I suffered from anxiety and panic attacks - especially after my heart attack on August 12th, 5:00am EST 2006. As a result of my suffering, I decided I would go on a crusade to reveal the most powerful, most effective and most successful system for living an Anxiety and Panic Free Life." - Lorraine Roach, Founder AnxietyEnded.com Visit her web site - www.anxietyended.com |
